This past weekend was Canada Day weekend, and besides it being my country’s 150th birthday, it also marked 4 years since my husband and I started a new life together in Toronto.
I can’t believe 4 years have already passed since we finished our roadtrip from Vancouver to Toronto to take our chances in a completely new city. And when I say completely new…I mean it. I’d actually never visited Toronto before we moved here. My husband on the other hand had checked it out for a few days for a conference, and after telling me he really liked it, that was pretty much all I needed to hear to pack up my things and go.
Why I Wanted to Change My Life in My 20s
You see, I was getting pretty restless in Vancouver. Having lived there all my life, it’s all I knew and I felt like my world was just too contained. I was 26 (on the cusp of 27), and already felt like life was passing me by. I was afraid that if I didn’t do something drastic, I’d look back 5, 10, 20 years down the road and be filled with regret, and that’s not how I wanted my storyline to play out.
So, along with my husband (who was still my fiancé at the time), we decided to take one of the biggest risks of our lives and move to a completely new city, with no jobs, family or friends there, and just hustle like crazy til we made something of ourselves.
A huge risk I know, but in our eyes, we knew that no matter the outcome it would be worth it. We also agreed that if after a year we absolutely hated it, we’d move back home and at least say it was an experience. But one year turned into two, which turned into three, and now we’re already celebrating four years in a city that feels more like home than Vancouver ever did.
To learn more about my move and why I now wholeheartedly believe that taking risks can be a really, REALLY good thing, check out my latest video above and don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel!
How Taking One Big Risk Changed Everything
Before moving to Toronto, I was not a risk-taker. Not by a long shot. I liked security, I was happy when I was comfortable, and I hated change. Which was really annoying because a big part of me also wanted to be more adventurous and experience life to the fullest. But there was always something holding me back. Something inside me telling me not to do it because I could get hurt, or worse…fail.
I lived most of my life like this, until something in me shifted. I don’t really know what or why, but I just started hating the monotony and predictability of my life. Eventually, the fear or getting hurt or failing seemed almost a welcome change from doing the same thing day in and day out.
But trying to change things up while still living in my hometown wasn’t really an option for me. By moving away, I’d get the unique opportunity to start over. To reinvent myself. To chase my dreams, take even more risks, and try new things without any judgment or familiarity to hold me back.
And that’s exactly what I did. I reinvented myself from a total introvert who was broke, afraid of taking on big responsibility, and wanted to basically fade into the background into who I am today.
So who am I today? Well, I’m still an introvert, but I make a concerted effort to not let that get in my way of meeting new people, networking, public speaking or interviewing some of my idols.
I’m not broke anymore. I’m not exactly rich, but I’m now financially secure enough to be able to work for myself full-time, live a debt-free life, continue to save for my goals and invest for my future regularly.
I’m certainly not afraid of taking on big responsibilities. I love being the boss and leading whenever I get a chance.
And lastly, I’m no wallflower. Although I still get nervous sometimes, in general I really love being on camera, interviewing someone for my podcast, or speaking to a large group of people.
How You Can Change the Course of Your Life Too
Moving away to someplace new may not be the answer for you, even though it was what changed the game for me. Regardless of what worked for me, that’s not what I want you to take away from my experience. What I want you to take away from all this is that if you’re unhappy with how you’re life is going right now, you can absolutely change course. It’s never too late and there’s no excuse too big to switch things up, and live a life that makes you feel more fulfilled, purposeful and overall more satisfied.
Listen, at the end of the day, I’m no one special okay. I’m some girl from the suburbs who went to public school and used to work at A&W. I did not come from money and didn’t get any handouts. I am where I am not because of where I came from, but because of the choices I made. So if you want to change where your life is headed, start making some different choices.
Not only that, start taking some risks! Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it could mean you crash and burn and have to repair your ego. Don’t sweat it! Failure just means you haven’t succeeded yet. So try again. Take another risk. Try something new. Even if it’s something really small but still scares you, do it! Taking a bunch of small risks will add up to a huge leap which could ultimately put you on a better path in life.
I know some of what I’m saying sounds like I’m selling the dream, but I’m really not. I am living proof that if you want to change your life, you can. It’s not easy. It’ll be hard work, draining, and there’ll probably be some tears involved. But in the end, whatever the outcome, it’ll be worth it.
The thing I’m most proud of from taking that big risk of moving to a new city isn’t my career or my relationships. It’s who I’ve become. I’m almost a completely different person now than I was 4 years ago, and I love this version of me way better.
What’s the biggest risk you’ve taken in life? Share in the comments!