Stop comparing yourself to others, you’re doing just fine!
When I was little, I always wanted to be just like my older sister. She was super smart (still is), got straight As in school, and although my mom told me not to, I couldn’t help but compare myself to her. Whenever I got a B, I felt like I just wasn’t as smart as her and pushed myself to try harder. Eventually I realized it wasn’t healthy to compare myself to her or anyone else, because everyone’s different and that’s a good thing. We can’t all get straight As all the time, we can’t all win gold medals at the Olympics, and we can’t think of life as one big competition.
Why I’m bringing this up is because I read a lot of personal finance blogs, and some of those bloggers mention in their posts how much money they make. Usually this doesn’t bother me, but once in a while I’ll stumble upon a blog where the person mentions that they make over $100,000 per year, and I can’t help but feel like I must be doing something wrong if I’m not making this much money too. I’m a financially savvy lady, what step did I miss to jack up my salary to the 6 figure mark?
After wallowing in self-pity for a bit, I try remember that I shouldn’t compare myself to anyone else because I don’t know what their journey was like to get there. Maybe they had to work 12 hours days with no vacations for 10 years to finally reach that level of success. Maybe they won the lottery and just forgot to mention that in their blogger bio. Maybe they killed someone and are living off that person’s life insurance. The possibilities are endless!
Plus, why do I even want to make that much money per year? I mean, even if you can afford mo’ houses with your salary, lest us not forget the poignant words of Notorious B.I.G., mo’ money mo’ problems. Furthermore, the more money you make, the more taxes you have to pay. Then again, if I was offered an exorbitant raise at work, I definitely wouldn’t turn it down.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’ve realized that worrying about what everyone else is doing isn’t gonna help me reach my financial goals. I may never make 6 figures, but if I keep to my budget, continue to find ways to raise my income, and keep saving my money, I know one day I’ll be able to buy my own place, support a family, and eventually retire comfortably. Again, if any bosses at my work are reading this right now, I repeat, I would not refuse an exorbitant raise. Just sayin’.