Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our one year wedding anniversary. I can’t believe it’s already been a year. I remember it all like it was yesterday, but apparently it just whipped by. I mean, it’s crazy to look back and remember that I literally spent a year of my life planning a one-day event. Sure, it was a wonderful, magical, and life-changing day. But still…one full year of planning and a wedding budget of $16,000 to pull it off? That’s kind of insane!
Since I posted all the nitty-gritty details of our wedding budget after we got hitched, I thought it would be fun to write a post about my perspective on everything one year later. $16,000 is still a fairly frugal wedding considering that the national average for wedding budgets is still $31,000. That being said, now that I’m no longer wearing my bridezilla goggles, there are definitely a few things I would probably change.
Do I regret having a big wedding instead of going really cheap and heading to the courthouse? Not in a million years. It may be the only day besides my funeral that all of my friends and family and those of my husband’s are in the same room together. There really can be no price for having everyone you love in one room, and for that, it was worth every penny.
However, what I do really regret is ordering a limo for the end of the night to drive us to our hotel. We left past midnight when everyone was packing up so there was no huge goodbye from our guests anyway; our MC (god bless him) accidentally told the driver that we weren’t ready to leave yet when we were, then forgot to tell us the limo was waiting outside for an hour; and lastly the 30 minute drive to our hotel was the bumpiest drive I’ve ever experienced.
It felt as if he was trying to hit every pot hole, which of course was not ideal as I had to pee really badly and we had way too much to drink (another regret, we really should have switched to water near the end of the night). In the end, I really wish we would have saved the extra money and just called a cab.
Another regret was our wedding favours. Well, maybe not so much the favours themselves (they were delicious tarts by the way), but how we decided to display them. Since we had so much stuff on all the tables, we put all the favours on a separate table near the guest book for guests to take on their way out.
Even though I made a sign telling guests to take one, we were left with at least 75% of them. Maybe people don’t like tarts, or maybe no one knew they were supposed to take them. In any case, we basically paid $150 for tarts that we had to eat more than half of ourselves.
Lastly, my big regret (and it still makes me angry just thinking about it) was my wedding heels. Sure, they were beautiful, sparkly, and my take on a Cinderella shoe, but in the end they were the most excruciatingly painful things to wear! No one looks at your feet anyway so I wish I just put on a pair of sandal wedges that I already owned and called it a day.
What ended up happening was after the ceremony I took them off and put on a pair of flats instead. My feet didn’t hurt during our hour photo session, but what I didn’t take into account was how short I would look minus those few crucial inches. Oh well, it is what it is. At least I didn’t break and ankle or something right?
Besides those three regrets, that $16,000 was still the best $16,000 I’ve ever spent. No wedding day is perfect, but I got to marry the man of my dreams in front of everyone I loved, and I’d pay for that again, and again, and again.
Did you have any regrets when it came to your wedding budget after a year or more passed by? What do you think the biggest waste of money for a wedding is?
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